The Game Dame

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Warning: This post contains adult language.

I will probably leave my guild over this issue. Someone used the word “rape” in guild chat today in reference to wanting to PvP against Alliance. I told him I wouldn’t tolerate that word. He said, “Geez, what’s the big deal, calm down.” I said, “It has happened to me, so I don’t find the word funny or casual. And don’t tell me to calm down, asshole.” He basically said, “Whatever,” and never apologized.

So I told the Guild Master. I felt at least I deserved an apology. (Keep in mind that this guild member is still temporary — he hasn’t been fully accepted as a member.) The GM didn’t like the guildie in particular but he defended his use of the word. “It’s very common and it’s tolerated all over WoW.” WTF?? No, it’s NOT tolerated. I asked him if people used the “N” word would he say anything to them? He said, “Personally, the word does not offend me so it wouldn’t bother me.” I said, “I make a habit of standing up for things that are right regardless of whether someone’s watching me or not.” His essential reaction was a shrug. I’m so upset that I will probably transfer Slig off the server today, not even bother to /gquit.

WTF is going on with gaming? Is it like the last stupid bastion of the Little Asshole Boys Club?? I write a post condemning domestic violence on WoW Insider and I get PASTED and some people even defend wife-beating!!?? Now I stand up against a word that should never be used lightly and *I* get lectured for being offended??? What the hell is this, the freakin’ Stone Age? AR AR ME MAN YOU WOMAN ME PULL HAIR LAUGH LOTS AND USE MY PARTS IN YOU AGAINST YOUR WILL. Are gaming men really that freaking insecure? That they have to create a little bubble around themselves so they can make gay jokes and racist jokes and jokes about violating women?

And it’s not like there aren’t any women in my guild. Most of them are wives of other players. Why are THEY not standing up against this kind of bullshit?

I should probably have waited until I calmed down to write a nice, thoughtful post on this issue. But I was far too angry to wait.  Oh my gosh, I’m so angry that I’m shaking with rage. Why are gaming women tolerating this boysclub bullshit??

Isn’t misogyny a wonderful thing? As a result of offensive comments directed at me, I’m closing comments on this post. Wanna say something? Get your own blog.